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This is a discussion on ~~~!!love or arrange marriage!!~~~ within the Mohabat Kadah forums, part of the Mouj Masti category; how are u all? i wish u all are fine with the grace of ALMIGHTY.... well i thought k yahan ...
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#1
12-22-2008, 10:15 AM
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 how are u all? i wish u all are fine with the grace of ALMIGHTY....  well i thought k yahan har week kisi bhi ek topic pe hum debate karien gien...  to ye silsila mien shuru kar rahi hoon aur umeed hai aap sab iss mien shirkat kare gien aur iss silsiley ko agey tak le kar jaiengien  aaj ka mera debate topic hai.. " are u in the favour of love marriage or arrange marriage??" if u r in the favour of love marriage then why? and if not tab bhi aap apney reason bataien..... dekhtey hien kitney aap se agree kartey hien..... aur end of the discussion pe aapki raie badalti hai ya nhi... and the debate has to be healthy..... a hearty request to all of you to comment...... regards shumaila 
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#2
12-22-2008, 11:46 AM
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 hmm.. good idea  ..mera manna yeh hai ke marriage without love is compromise... agar aap arrange marriage ki haq me bhi baat karein to wahan love zaroori hai nahi to compromise ziada waqt nahi chalta... marriage should always be love marriage, no matter parents arrange the relationship or it happens by itself.. agar parents apni marzi se decision le ke us ko musallat karna chahein ge to woh successful nahi ho ga (shayad compromise ho jaye, par compromise success nahi hai)... isi tarah agar kisi ko love marriage karni ho to us ko apnay parents ki raza-mandi leni chahiye, nahi to woh aik bohot gehray rishtay ko kho sakta hai (parents-children relationship)... me nahi kahoun ga ke love marriage galat hai, me ye bhi nahi kahoun ga ke arrange marriage galat hai.... dono sahi hai, SITUATION pe sab depend karta hai, ke kis waqt kon sa decision sahi ho ga.... aik tareeka sab pe nahi chalta... 
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12-22-2008, 01:26 PM
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Asalam o Alikum, Members of Hallagulla.com Shumaila App Nay Jo Topic Muntakib Kia Hai Wo Hai Too Bohat Umda Lakin Us per Baat kerna Khasa Mushkil Kam Hai Love Marriage ya Arrange Marriage Kon C Kerni Chaye Dhekain Love Ager Hoo Jay or Pure Hoo Us Per App Ko Trust Hoo Too Love Marriage Theek Hai Ager Love Howa Hai Lakin He/She Jo b Ho 2noo May Aik Muklis Na Hoo Just Batoon Tak Hoo Ya wo Love Ki ooor May Kuch or Chata Hoo Too Aisi Love Marriage Sy Bheter Hai k Arrange Marriage kerni Chaye….
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12-22-2008, 02:09 PM
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Domino yaad agaya  aik baar wahan bhi yeh Topic mila tha aur shayad tab main nai arrange marriege ko support kiya tha  laikin ab main Love Marriage k haq main hon kiyon k Mera manna hai k Shaadi k liye hamain ahtiyaat karni chahiye No Doubt k hamaray parents hamaray liye ghalat faisla nahi karain gai laikin prob yeh hoti hai k shaadi k baad agar kabhi arrange main prob hojati hai tu kahin Dil main Parents k liye ajeeb khayalaat anay lagtay hain  Love marriage woh love marriage hargiz nai jo ajj kal k larkon k zehan main hai k Larka Larki aik dosray say milkay apnay rishtay ko agay barhatay hain  balkay Relatives main say hi hamain koi pasand hai ya bahar kahin koi pasand hai tu us ko proposal bhaija jaye without any condition k pehlay jann lain etc etc iski hamain sharayee Ijazat bhi hai k app usi say shaadi karain jo apko pasand ho nai hai tu Waldain ki jo khuahish ho uspay amal karain mekay reply say aisa nai lagta jaisay main dono ki favour main hon  lag bhi raha hai tu lagta reh sano ki 
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12-22-2008, 02:44 PM
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nice topic mere khiyal se kamyab azwaji zindagi guzarne k liye zehni ham aahangi , ihsas-e-zimadari ka hona zaida zaruri hai agar zehni ham aahngi na ho to chahey wo muhabbat ki shadi ho ya arrange marriage dono suaratoon mein hi problems hoti hain, rahi baat specially love marriage aour arrange marriage ki to arrange marriage me aik doosre ko janney k liye samajhne k liye bhalay hi thora time lagta hai, par agar dono parties dil se aik doosre ko samajh le aour feelings ka ikhtram karein to nothing batter than arrange marriage, me personly love marriage ke haq mein nahi hoon, coz ke me ne bahot sari love marriages ko nakaam hotay dekha hai although arrange marriages bhi nakaam hoti hai, par love marriage mein expectations zaida hoti hai, wo kia shair hai na "dil dhoondta hai phir wohi fursat ke raat din, baithe rahein tassawar-e-janna kiye huay...." jab ye sab nahi milta to problems, aour specially shadi ke baad boy pe kuch responsibilities hoti hai, jab larki ko wo sab care, time, wo walehana muhabbat nahi milti jo shadi se pehle thi to problems, start. first dialauge "tum change ho gaye ho" secondly in my point of view, muhabbat hamesha apni cheez se hi karni chahiye, yaani apne sathi se, apne sharik-e-hayyat se ye jazba sirf aour sirf ussi ke liye bacha kar rakhna chahiye. parayi cheez ka kia hai kab chin jaye aour aap ke dil mein sari omer wo kasak baki reh jaye. most better sulution ye hai ke shadi se pehle parents ko larka larki ki razamandi aour passand ka khiyal rakhna chahiye, aour pooch lena chaihye aour hamare mua'asharey mein aik nizam hai engagment ka , atleast 1 year tak engagment rahey takeh dono parties aik doosre ko samaj sakein , un mein limited comunication honi chahiye etc.... passand and arrange marriage is batter than all
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12-22-2008, 02:50 PM
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bohat shukrya aamir jee idea pasand karney ka firstly compromise aisi cheez hai jo humien har relation mien karni pardhti hai with out compromise relation agey mere khyal se nhi bardh sakta.... ya ye kahien k without compromise hum rishta maintain nhi rakhsaktey.... this is my thought!!! and secondly aapney kaha k parents jo apni marzi musallat kartey hien wo kamyab nhi hoti kiyun k compromise zyada waqt tak nhi chalta par i have seen k bht si aisi shaadiyaan hien jo mashallah se successfull hien......... haan ye zaroor kahoongi k aaj kal generation mostly apni marzi rakhtey hien tou kiya agar aun k parents maan bhi jaien tou how can u say k wo successfull hosakti hien.... coz compromise tou arrange mien kiya gaya hai.... aur ye sahi kaha k jo log love marriage kartey hien jahan sirf apni marzi rakhtey hien wo bht hi ahem rishta kho dete hien..........!!!!
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#7
12-22-2008, 02:54 PM
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Nice thread n deabte on this topic is going on... well...Love marriage hou ya aarange marriage start main dono main hee adjustment karnay k liyah kafi khuch bardasht karna hota hay...suna hay k Nikkah k baad Miyyan biwi k dil main Almighty Allah ki taraf say Khood Muhabbut kou Outara deya jata hay...aur wohi muhabbut trustful mani ja sakti hay...so 75% main aarange marriage kou aur 25% love marriage kou support karoon gi... Arrange marriage main dono ki back strong rehti hay..aur adjustment k liYah aik acha enviornment create kya jata hay aur iss sub k larki k ssath Obviously uss k hubby ki support honi chaYah..aur mard main itni ahyliYut hou k woh biwi aur ghar waloon dono main balanCe rakh sakay aur mazbOut Quwat-e-Iradi ka malik hou tou zindagi bohut achi guzar sakti hay...
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12-22-2008, 02:57 PM
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humm...exactly..Love marriage main insan ki expectations bohut masla create kar daiti hay..aysa normally dhaikhnay main aata hay.... 
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12-22-2008, 03:01 PM
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Exactly..tht's the pOint which should be considerable...
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12-22-2008, 03:10 PM
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shukrya irfan jee pehley tou ye kehna chaungi k aapney arrange marriage ko bht hi ache se support kiya..... par irfan jee ye sahi hai k ek dusrey ko samjhney k liye waqt lagta hai par tab kiya hojata hai kuch saal baad hi arrange marriage mien misunderstandig aajati hien us waqt unki zehni aham haangi aur ihsae zimadari kahan goom hojati hai jab k wo ek dusrey ko samjh chukey teh.... aur phir ek bht hi popular dialogue " mere maa baap ney meri zindagi barbad kardi iss ghar mujhey biya k/ mere galey tumhien baand k??" aus waqt wo maa baap ko kiyun zimedar tehrai jatey hien...???
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