Urdu Poetry Forum

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mian bewi razi to kia kare ga qazi

koshish karni chahiye k maan baap maan jayen

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sub say phalay to Zuhabi bhai welcome..kafi arasay bad MK..........

In my personal opinion ...court marriage is not a crime.....aik to ap sadge say shadi kar rahay hain ....jo kay right way hai.............or dosra phaloo yah hai kay parents ko samjna chaheya....or jo parents nahi mantay jis ke vajha say bachay court marriages kartay hain to mere nazar may parents kusor var hotay hain...agar to vo spouse theek nahi tab parents ke baat man laina chaheya...........la kin yahna per aik baat kahon ge....agar parents apnay kids ko bata dain acha or bura...or faisal chor dain bachon per yah kah kar kay yah faisla tumhara hai...acha ho bura ho es kay zemadar tum kud ho...to es say bachon ko dobara sochnay ka moka mel jata hai....
dosri baat jo ap nay pochi kay mazhab kia kahta hai court marriages per to i m srry mujhay itna nahi maloom.......per itna zarror hai kay sathdge say karnay ka hukam hai....per may yahna per Quote share karon ge jo marriage say related hai...

“My father married me to his nephew, and I did not like this match, so I complained to the Messenger of Allah . He said to me: ‘Accept what your father has arranged.’ I said, ‘I do not wish to accept what my father has arranged.’ He said, ‘Then this marriage is invalid, go and marry whomever you wish.’ I said, ‘I have accepted what my father has arranged, but I wanted women to know that fathers have no right in their daughter’s matters (i.e. they have no right to force a marriage on them).’”2
At first, the Prophet told al-Khansa’ to obey her father, and this is as it should be, because the concern of fathers for their daughters’ well being is well known. But when he realized that her father wanted to force her into a marriage she did not want, he gave her the freedom to choose, and saved her from the oppression of a father who wanted to force her into an unwanted marriage.

if i find more i'll share

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Asalam-o-Alaikum,
sahi kaha sab loogoon nain, but mera point of view thora diff. hai, court marrige karna koi gunah nahin hai magar aik cheez jo key important hai aur hamain is per focus karna chahiyeh k jo loog court marrige kartey hain un main sey 95% teen ager hotey hain aur yehi waja hai key is tarah ki shaadian ziada dair nahin chalti.
parents ko chahiyeh k bachoon ki baat ko serious lain aur un ki zindagi key faisley un ko be karney dain aur bachoon ko be chahiyeh k apney parents ka experience use karain

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@humkha1us

well said dear

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bilkul sahee kaha per yah teenager aisa kartay kun hain??? coz parents shadiyan jaldi nahi kartay....some times parents delay ............bachon ko acha or bura bata daina chaheya.....takay anay valay waqt may vo kud zemadar rahen achay or buray kay

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Thank you so much

Mohsin bhai ap bhe to kuch apnay khayalat baten

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court marriage mai waqti tor per tu khushee mil jati hai magar baad mai hamesha ye khiyaal satata reh hai ke kaaaash ghar walon ki raza mandi se shadi ki hoti aur ,,,ye zamana bhi court marriage karne walon hamesha ko tane deta rehta hai
isliye issko avoid karna he behtar hai

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hmmmm wat is the court mariage exactly?
i mean, yahan per jab shaadi hoti hai (France), Nikkah kiya jatta hai for the religious part and we have also the mariage at the home town, joh ke civil mariage hota hai
but agar sirf civil mariage ho tu ladka ladki saath nahi reh sakte, gunnah hai bcz nikkah nahi hua hota
so my question is kya court mariage is like civil mariage? yan pak main court mariage is like nikkah with the immam?
thx for reply...

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Yeh Bahein Humein jab apni Panahon mein bulathi hein,
Humein apni Kasam hum har Sahara bhool jatey hain

yaar sawal to bohat strong pocha hai tum nay per may sure nahi ....may nay yah parnay kay bad kafi logon say pocha per sab kay different answer mel rahe hain.......vaisay yahna USA may bhe kuch aisa he hai....ap ko mazjid jana parta hai or pher court may register karna parta hai....register marzi hoti hai.....lakin itna zarror malom hai kay serf hum log he nahi ap ko kisi mosque yah church jana parta hai................
agay maloom nahi lakin if anyone can find in dept of this....that will be great

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